Love & Money
Test Your Marriage and Money Skills
Take this marriage and money skills quiz to improve your joint understanding and communication about money. You and your partner should answer the questions separately and then compare the notes. The results may surprise you.
Scoring
The answers that lead to better communication about money between partners are listed below. If you and your partner have a different answer to any question, this is an excellent opportunity to discuss your feelings.
1. B
2. A
3. C
4. B
5. A
6. A
7. A
8. C
Now let's take a closer look at each question, and what the statements mean for your relationship.
1. The way your partner handles money.
The way a person handles money is influenced by a number of factors, including his or her parents' attitudes about money and whether he or she grew up upper, lower or middle class. For some people, money is a measure of their self-worth, whereas others see it as a means of security. Some people splurge as a way to reward themselves, whereas others are most proud of their ability to save. Understanding your natural tendencies can help each of you learn to appreciate the other's traits, and perhaps modify your own behavior. Discuss how you each feel about money and where your beliefs stem and you’ll be better able to compromise on how money is handled in your household.
2. Your discussion of future goals.
Whether or not you share a checkbook, sharing goals is one of the most exciting parts of being a couple. Together, you define and develop the type of lifestyle you’ll lead. Be honest with each other about your specific desires and priorities. For example, if you’re young and you both want to have children, perhaps your spouse would like to go back to graduate school before you start a family. As a couple, reach an agreement about the goals you share, create a timeline and then determine the best saving and investment strategy to realize each objective.
3. Your financial skills.
If either of you lacks financial knowledge, make the effort to master the basics and boost your confidence about money issues. Review all your personal finances together and learn the basics of handling money. Don't be afraid to ask questions and seek guidance along the way. The more you understand financial matters, the more confident and empowered you’ll feel in other aspects of your life. Knowing how to manage money wisely gives you a sense of control and security that’s imperative to building a solid future as a couple.
4. Dividing the money management tasks.
Who’s in charge of paying the monthly bills, who balances the checkbook, and who files the paperwork? Is one of you in charge of your investment accounts, or do you make decisions as a couple? However you divvy up the financial duties, make sure you each understand what the other is doing. That way, you'll have the skills to manage your finances in case your spouse becomes ill or dies, or the marriage breaks up.
5. Establishing a budget.
Without a budget, you may discover that one or both of you is spending beyond your means, which can make it nearly impossible to achieve your financial goals. Creating a household budget is relatively easy, and sticking to it will help you use your income wisely, safeguard your future, and avoid misunderstandings about how money should be spent.
6. Your partner's money style.
Everyone has a different money style. Some people are natural born risk takers, whereas others are so afraid of loss, they'd rather sock their savings away inside their mattress. Talk openly with your partner about your attitudes regarding wealth and how comfortable you are assuming risk with your investments. With patience and honest communication, you should fully understand each other's feelings and be able to reach an agreement about the best way to manage your money together.
7. Knowing your partner's finances.
Sit down together and review your financial picture. Order a copy of your credit report and talk about how to improve your credit rating. If you have outstanding debt, pay it off as quickly as possible, even if it means cutting back on certain luxuries or postponing some of your other goals, such as buying a house or a new car. But don't scrimp on your retirement savings!
8. Your financial commitments to each other.
Disagreements are inevitable, and couples argue about financial issues more than anything else. Aim to discuss your differences openly and settle them fairly. Money is intertwined with trust in a relationship, so the more you can talk about money, the better relationship you’ll have.
Source: Excerpted from “It’s More Than Money—It’s Your Life!”
by Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall from Wife.org.
